By Tyffani Dent, Psy.D.
I work with adolescents who have engaged in problematic sexual behavior. Many of the clients with whom I work are males. Being that within our juvenile justice system there is an over-representation of those who come from marginalized communities, specifically Black and Brown ones---with many explanations for this given from over-policing, racial profiling, poverty not permitting access to services expect through “systems”, etc.---it is not surprising that a significant portion of those I serve are Black. Taking into consideration that the large majority of sexual offenses committed by juveniles are committed by males (Finkelhor, Ormrod, & Chaffin, 2009) it does not surprise me when clients I serve are overwhelmingly black boys, due to a skewed engagement with the juvenile justice system.
When addressing problematic sexual decisions with the boys I counsel, oftentimes the topic of their own early sexual experiences emerges. In these conversations, there are times when they report initiation to sexual behavior occurring at the hands of much older adolescent or adult females and in some cases, male caregivers. Yet, in these discussions, many of them do not view such interactions as sexual abuse or sexually inappropriate, in part, because my community does not often “permit” our boys access to the concept of it being acceptable to not want sexual contact.
Recently, Terry Crews, a famous Black actor, came out and discussed his own #MeToo moment. He disclosed his own experiences with sexual victimization. While some praised him, others including the Rapper 50 Cent, in a tweet, and Senator Feinstein, in a congressional hearing, gave a response with which I am more familiar with--- 50 Cent viewing Mr. Crews’s victimization as discounting his manhood and Senator Feinstein questioning why a big male such as Mr. Crews did not fight back. This toxic masculinity, which is the push towards hypermasculinity and belief in traditional male stereotypes, is prevalent within our Black and Brown communities in part because of the historical emasculation of Black males since slavery into Jim Crow. The current climate which we live in continues to downplay options for healthy development of a male identity within the Black and Brown communities due to mass incarceration. Such ingrained hypermasculinity impacts not only the starting point in which one engages with Black boys related to what healthy sexual decisions look like, but also in reframing discriminatory selection of sexual partners as being empowering instead of a sign of “weakness”.
How should the knowledge of toxic masculinity impact our work with especially Black boys who have engaged in problematic sexual behavior?
how (if applicable) these boys own problematic sexual decisions were
informed by toxic masculinity/hypermasculinity.