Primary prevention of sexual abuse involves targeting root problems to prevent the abuse from occurring in the first place. This article will summarize why I believe it is important to discuss the popular but imprecise belief that someone who holds a sexual interest in children is eventually going to commit a sexual offence against a child.
Virtuous Pedophiles is an organization with the
goal to reduce the stigma most pedophiles experience by popularizing one fact
that most of the public does not know (or at least acknowledge): that a number
of pedophiles do not commit a sexual offence. As I discussed in my Nextgenforensic
article, most of us overlook the key distinction between the term ‘pedophile’ and ‘sex offender against children’. That is, pedophiles are those who
hold a sexual interest in children whereas sex offenders against children are
those who have committed a sexual offence against a child (see here
for more information on pedophilia). Not
all pedophiles are sex offenders and not all sex offenders against children are
pedophiles (for an interesting review, see Seto, 2008).
I recently had the
opportunity to speak to the co-founders of Virtuous Pedophiles, Nick Devin and
Ethan Edwards (pseudonyms). The Virtuous Pedophiles online forum currently has
over 600 members and, as noted in their website their “…highest priority is to help pedophiles never abuse children.” Nick
and Ethan were kind enough to answer a few questions on the impact of imprecise
language and future directions for clinicians, researchers, and policy makers
in this field.
ON
THE IMPORTANCE OF LANGUAGE
Labels influence
peoples’ views and perceptions (for review, see Harris & Socia, 2014
and Janke
et al., 2015). Both Nick and Ethan highlighted several reasons for why it
continues to be important to be explicit in distinguishing between pedophiles
and sex offenders. For example, Nick pointed out the negative impact of the
public’s habit of equating pedophiles to sex offenders: “[m]any pedophiles believe themselves to be evil as a result of
attractions that they did not choose, even if they don't act on those
attractions. Many are depressed as a result; some are even suicidal”.
Negative public views
not only means pedophiles are stigmatized, but also that some pedophiles do not
seek help from professionals because of their fear of being discovered. As Nick
pointed out, more precise language can change public perceptions and even laws.
“I think the source of the hatred is the
failure to distinguish between pedophilia and sex offending. People just
are not aware that a great many pedophiles successfully resist their sexual
attractions. If enough people became aware, I think
the hatred would be reduced. Pedophiles would be more
willing to get the help they need, and fewer children would be sexually abused.”
IMPLICATIONS
FOR KEY STAKEHOLDERS
1)
Clinicians and Policy Makers
There are a lot of
improvements needed to expand services to pedophiles and, ultimately, to aid in
the primary prevention of child sexual abuse. I asked both Nick and Ethan what
clinicians and policy makers in the field can do to help pedophiles lead more
productive lives without offences. Both had important points, which I provide
below.
Ethan: “Clinicians can do several things. One is to
learn the true mandated reporting requirements in your jurisdiction... Treat
pedophiles as people with a difficult life problem, not just as potential
molesters. You have been trained for empathy and respect for your clients, and
extend that to pedophiles -- especially those who have done nothing wrong. Do
not abruptly terminate therapy without providing a referral. Accept that
pedophilia is a sexual attraction that was not chosen. Do not try to eliminate
the attraction, but help clients work around it and feel OK about themselves as
long as they do not harm others. Often pedophiles have no trouble controlling
their behavior, but want help with leading a worthwhile life. Knowing that you
will never know sex or love, and knowing that everyone would hate you if you
told them who you truly are -- these alone are understandable causes of
distress.”
Nick: “With respect to policy makers, they need
to look at the mandatory reporting rules. These rules require therapists
to report a patient if they think the patient is a danger is to a child.
The rules are well intentioned. Of course we want to protect children
from abuse. The problem from the pedophile's perspective is that the
rules are vague. No one knows what a particular therapist will
consider dangerous, and the consequences of being reported are so severe (e.g.,
social ostracism) that many people who need help don't go to therapists due to
fear of being reported. Dr. Fred Berlin of Johns Hopkins
University use to see a
large number of non-offending pedophiles as part of his practice. He
reports that pedophiles stopped coming in for treatment when Maryland
adopted mandatory reporting rules. Dr. Hans Beier runs a program
called Prevention Project Dunkelfeld in Germany, which encourages pedophiles to
come forward for treatment. He has said that the program would not be
viable in the United States
due to mandatory reporting rules.”
As policy makers, it
is important to acknowledge the deleterious effects of mandatory reporting law.
Overly restrictive laws results in pedophiles not getting the help that may
have preventing them from abusing a child. It is true that as clinicians, we
are limited by the mandatory reporting laws in our jurisdictions. If you live
in a restrictive jurisdiction, which requires you to refer someone who reports
a sexual interest in children, it is important to note that there are an
increasing number of anonymous online resources available to your client (which
I summarize here).
Unfortunately, not all clinicians currently do this, as Ethan pointed out:
“…some
researchers have said that most sex offenders commit their first offense when
they are desperate and feel they have nothing to lose. Yet when some explicitly
seek help, they are told that no resources are available to them unless they
have committed an offense.”
2)
Researchers
As a researcher, I
was particularly interested in what researchers in the field can do to help
primary prevention efforts. Here is a summary of interesting projects that hold
important implications, as suggested by Nick and Ethan.
- Develop a best practices
treatment module and disseminate that information to therapists who
see pedophiles.
Nick summarized
the state of affairs, which highlighted the current uncertainty in our field. Specifically,
some researchers/clinicians believe pedophilia can be changed whereas others
believe that, like other sexual orientation, pedophilia cannot be changed and,
instead, must be managed.
“We hear from a lot of pedophiles who see
therapists and they report different approaches. Some therapists say
you should try very hard not to fantasize about children. Others say not
to worry about that and focus on strengthening strategies to prevent
abuse. Some try to change a pedophile’s sexual interests to make them
attracted to adults. Others say this isn't possible. Some
therapists are right on this and others are wrong. Who is right?
What is the best way for the therapist to proceed?”
A recent
article by Müller
and colleagues on the subject elicited a number of Letters to the Editor,
which highlights the controversial nature of this debate (for those wanting a
snapshot of the debate, there is a radio broadcast on
the subject). More primary studies
are required, and a review article would be useful in providing direction to
clinicians.
- More research on non-offending
pedophiles.
Ethan
noted “it would be great if there was
research on non-offending pedophiles. It is very difficult to study us because
we have such a strong motivation to stay hidden. Perhaps anonymous surveys
could be formulated with enough protections to convince celibate pedophiles
that they really are safe in responding. Representative-sample community
surveys could include questions about attraction to children -- why don't
they?”
Such
studies are certainly doable. Online surveys now allow for anonymous
participation. That is, surveys can be created to ensure that no identifying
information is collected, such as IP addresses. In addition, b4uact
provides help to researchers hoping to recruit self-identified pedophiles.
Increasing research on non-offending pedophiles (e.g., the Dunkelfeld group) can improve our understanding
of this group of individuals. Census data certainly would be the gold standard,
but at least in Canada ,
we are reducing the scope of census questions (though there is an active debate
as to why we should not). Countries with more flexibility in their census
survey could provide worthwhile contributions to this field with the simple
addition of two questions: (1) Have you
ever felt sexually attracted to a child under the age of 12? (2) Have you ever had sexual contact with a
child under 12 when you were over the age of 16? The answers to these two
questions would provide a robust estimate on how many people with a sexual
interest in children actually offend.
- Summary of mandatory reporting
laws.
As Ethan
pointed out “Pedophiles assume the worst
about mandated reporter laws, wondering if just admitting an attraction to
children will get them reported”.
A summary
of mandatory laws for Canada
and states in the USA
(as well as other countries) would be a useful tool for any pedophile seeking help,
as well as clinicians wondering about the scope of mandatory reporting laws.
Access to these summaries may mean that more pedophiles would seek help and, as
such, would be a worthwhile project.
CONCLUSION
Ethan offered a simple way forward: “One simple starting point is for every person who hears "pedophile" to ask: Is this a celibate pedophile or an offending pedophile? And if the allegation is towards a pedophile, treat it with the same skepticism you would if the same allegation is made against a non-pedophile.” As university professors, we can teach this to our undergraduates. As researchers, we can make sure to be explicit in our publications. As clinicians, we need to be aware of the distinctions between those living with pedophilia and sex offenders, as well as provide help to the best of our ability given our respective mandatory reporting laws. As policy makers, we can teach this distinction to politicians, as well as highlight the harmful effects of mandatory reporting laws and other policies on prevention efforts.
Ethan offered a simple way forward: “One simple starting point is for every person who hears "pedophile" to ask: Is this a celibate pedophile or an offending pedophile? And if the allegation is towards a pedophile, treat it with the same skepticism you would if the same allegation is made against a non-pedophile.” As university professors, we can teach this to our undergraduates. As researchers, we can make sure to be explicit in our publications. As clinicians, we need to be aware of the distinctions between those living with pedophilia and sex offenders, as well as provide help to the best of our ability given our respective mandatory reporting laws. As policy makers, we can teach this distinction to politicians, as well as highlight the harmful effects of mandatory reporting laws and other policies on prevention efforts.
One final thought: we
can better prevent sexual abuse if we provide pedophilic individuals with the necessary
support and resources. However, it seems that common stumbling blocks (e.g.,
mandatory reporting law, fear of self-identifying as a pedophile) are due to the
popular but imprecise belief that someone who holds a sexual interest in
children is eventually going to commit a sex offence against a child. As
highlighted by surveys and research studies now
available, being a pedophile does not mean you are bound to commit a sexual
offence. Indeed, whereas pedophilia likely is not a choice (e.g., studies here and here),
committing a sexual offence is a choice, and one that a number of pedophiles do
not make. Of course, we can do much more to prevent child sexual abuse, as
highlighted by my conversation with the cofounders of Virtuous Pedophiles. One
seemingly simple step has to due with being more precise in our use of language.
Kelly
Babchishin, Ph.D. is a Banting postdoctoral fellow
(CIHR) at the University of Ottawa ’s Institute of Mental Health
Research and the Karolinska Instutet in Stockholm , Sweden .
Kelly’s doctoral dissertation examined change in acute risk factors of sex
offenders; her current research involves identifying causal candidates for the
onset of sexual offending. Her other research interests include online sexual
offending, pedophilia, and risk assessment.