tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post6958215677692832110..comments2024-03-20T02:49:01.256-04:00Comments on Sexual Abuse: A Guest Post by Dr. Michael SetoSAJRT Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09979090355557632191noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post-50830854003832358822013-09-26T05:00:41.935-04:002013-09-26T05:00:41.935-04:00Very well researched and analysed post. Thank you ...Very well researched and analysed post. Thank you so much for sharing the same with readers.Psychologist in Aptoshttp://www.wellness.com/find/psychologist/ca/aptosnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post-1298182414659768612013-03-28T12:52:09.246-04:002013-03-28T12:52:09.246-04:00Excellent analysis Sean and I agree that "the...Excellent analysis Sean and I agree that "the culture needs a safe framework to rehearse appropriate responses" but how does one define "benign paedophilia?" Are there ways beyond internet child sexually exploitative material (Child Porn) as those images and videos are by their very nature, NOT BENIGN. If there is a demand for those images, someone will supply them thus creating more child victims...<br /><br />Detective Jim Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post-54828194943562659492013-03-13T15:57:39.166-04:002013-03-13T15:57:39.166-04:00Excellent article differentiating the attraction f...Excellent article differentiating the attraction from the action. What are the risk factors for someone who is sexually attracted to children that differentiate those who do not act on it from those who do offend? Is there an actuarial risk assessment instrument for those who have not offended?<br /><br />GaryGary Gibsonhttp://www.ilovechildren.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post-33229387220166860142013-03-13T03:12:49.293-04:002013-03-13T03:12:49.293-04:00Emotions prefigure actions, the act being the beha...Emotions prefigure actions, the act being the behaviour that resolves the arousal state. For most men (and others) frustrated sexual arousal can be resolved through masturbation, which is a way of externalizing and reifying the psychological intangibles that disturb equilibrium. The act of grasping the penis in itself lends security as it gives substance to the intangible. Considering the object of desire in all it's aspects, exploring the possible, probing the unknown, these are much more than double entendres, they're essential steps to psychic health. <br /><br />However, men experiencing sexual or romantic attraction to children are not just denied scope to act, they're denied the freedom to feel and to process their feelings in fantasy. Faced with dilemmas in how to act and how to feel, they urgently need a positive culture of paedophilia, with authentic values, in which to consider, explore and probe. <br /><br />This culture needs to be a safe but robust (even ribald) framework in which to rehearse appropriate responses to forbidden desires. In fact such a framework has existed for centuries but has come under attack in recent decades, during which paedophilia has been equated with sexual abuse and representations of paedophilia have been equated with child pornography.<br /><br />So, to distinguish offenders from non-offenders, start by giving non-offenders a voice and protecting their culture of benign paedophilia from attack by bigots and puritans. It is not a predictor of child abuse, it's a vaccine against it.<br /><br />sean<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4037283511791624881.post-57663371795382595092013-03-12T23:18:41.946-04:002013-03-12T23:18:41.946-04:00Thanks, Michael, for a very thoughtful and insight...Thanks, Michael, for a very thoughtful and insightful post. I wonder if having more information (eg a computer trail) makes it any easier than it used to be to decide what to do in these difficult cases. Does knowing more make you feel any more certain, or is it the same tortuous process that I remember it being before the Internet? Paul Joannidesnoreply@blogger.com